The first time I tried concealed carry, I felt like I was playing dress-up with a firearm. The holster didn’t fit right, the gun was poking my ribs, and I was self-conscious every time I bent over in public. Was it printing? Could someone tell? And most importantly—could I get to it fast enough if I ever needed to?
Fast-forward a few years (and a lot of trial and error), and carrying concealed is now just part of my daily routine—whether I’m on the ranch, coaching a firearms class, or running errands with my son. But getting there wasn’t easy, and for a lot of women, the journey to comfortable, effective concealed carry can feel overwhelming.
So let’s break it down—from one armed woman to another.
The Right Gun for the Job
Let’s start with the foundation: your firearm. My EDC is the Staccato C, a compact 2011 platform that’s as reliable as it is accurate. It gives me the control and smooth trigger press I’m used to from competition shooting, but in a concealable frame perfect for daily wear. I’ve trusted it enough to stake my life—and my family’s—on it.
Yes, it’s heavier than a polymer micro-compact. But here’s the thing: heavier means less felt recoil, better accuracy, and faster follow-ups. And with the right holster and belt, I barely notice it’s there.
I’d suggest trying out a number of different handguns to find the one that YOU like the best. It’s got to fit your hand for a good grip, it’s got to fit your lifestyle, and it’s got to be accurate. Don’t be afraid to try a number of different ones out. You’ll find the one that makes you comfortable and confident and is the right fit.
Holsters: Find Your Fit, Not Just a Look
A lot of women’s holster options look more like fashion accessories than functional tools. Function and comfort are the most important aspects of a concealed carry holster.
Here are the ones I trust:
- Inside-the-Waistband (IWB): My go-to. I carry in the 3–4 o’clock position with a high-quality Safariland IWB holster paired with a sturdy gun belt. Look for adjustable cant and retention. Bonus points if it accommodates optics and lights—because, let’s face it, we need gear that works in real life, not just on paper.
- Appendix Carry (AIWB): Works well if you’re wearing fitted jeans or high-rise leggings. A good wedge and a holster with a concealment wing can help tuck the grip in and reduce printing. Safariland has a lot of great options for appendix carry to find a comfortable fit.
- Belly Bands: Not all are created equal. This is what I trust when I’m wearing athleisure clothing. I like these when I can’t wear a belt but still need to carry close and tight to the body.
- Off-Body Carry: This should be a last resort, not a daily solution. If you must carry in a purse or backpack, use a purpose-built concealed carry bag with a dedicated compartment, and never set it down or out of reach.
Clothing: Carry Confidently Without Compromise
Women’s clothing doesn’t always play nice with concealed carry. Here are some things I’ve learned:
- Structured Layers: Denim jackets, cardigans, flannels—anything with a little shape helps hide the outline of a firearm better than a clingy tee.
- High-Rise Pants: These work better with holsters, especially appendix or 3 o’clock carry. They help keep the gun tight and reduce shifting when you move.
- Concealment Tanks or Undershirts: You can use fitted concealment tank that act as a base layer and help distribute the weight of the firearm. It’s a great way to carry discreetly when your outer layers are lighter.
- Stretch is Your Friend: Whether it’s jeans with stretch or a yoga waistband, you want clothing that moves with you, not against your holster.
Practice Like You Live
Carrying is one thing—drawing under pressure is another. Practice your draw at home in the mirror. Move. Sit. Drive. Get in and out of your vehicle. Practice with the clothes you actually wear and the holster you actually use.
When I teach classes, the biggest aha moment for most women is realizing that they can carry concealed and still look like themselves. You don’t have to dress like someone else to be armed. You just have to dress with purpose.
Final Thoughts
Carrying a gun isn’t about paranoia—it’s about preparation. As the saying goes, “You are your own first responder”, and choosing to take responsibility for your safety and the safety of the people you love is paramount to being prepared for anything.
As women, we have different needs when it comes to carry—different body types, clothing styles, and daily routines. But that doesn’t mean we need gimmicks or shortcuts. We need good gear, good training, and the confidence to trust both.
So whether you’re just starting out or you’ve been carrying for years, I hope this helps you take that next step. And if you ever see me at a class or at the range—come say hi. I’ll be the one with the Staccato on my hip and a ranch dog at my side.
Stay safe, stay sharp,
– Lanny Oakley
